“I want to see as many troubled families and individuals as possible have access to neurofeedback. It has changed our lives by changing our brains. I grew up in a horrific situation, never able to trust being safe. Stress would take me back to that childhood place of feeling terrified. Neurofeedback helped be become more rational, as my brain was trained to function with less stress. Now that I am not in constant panic, I can see the parts of our lives that are not going the way we want them to go and can look at these challenges with clarity and openness instead of fear and blame, shame, or guilt,” says Stacey Breitmann, trauma survivor, mom, military wife, and neurofeedback advocate.
Stacey Breitmann, trauma survivor, mom, military wife, neurofeedback advocate and coach.
Todd Breitmann, USAF Retired, with daughter Hallie, practicing neurofeedback – brain training – in the family’s brain training room.
For the Breitmann family in North Georgia, the last few years have been intensely stressful. Todd, a Lt. Col. in the Air Force for 24 years, retired in 2012, and fell into depression and anxiety when his military career came to an end. In an attempt to change the mood by changing the focus and location, the family bought a farm. Sold it. Tried life in a Winnebago for a couple of years, homeschooling their daughters on the road. Finally, when they settled in North Georgia in 2016, family stresses and Todd’s depression became so crippling, he became suicidal. Residential treatment seemed to be the best option.
In Todd’s absence wife Stacey did what good military wives do: she ran the household – as the mom and the dad. Only for this home-schooling mom, the stress and overwhelm of being left behind this time were life-threatening for her too. Her fears that Todd might take his life during treatment drove Stacey beyond depression and overwhelm. She, too, was suicidal.
“His being in treatment 30 miles away was harder than his being deployed overseas. I was worried on so many levels, about our marriage, his depression, his suicidality. I worried about our daughters and how all of this was affecting them. It was as though I always had way, way too many tabs open on my brain. It was a computer that was freezing up and crashing as I tried to do homeschooling, care for a big house and property, figure out what was happening with my husband and my marriage,” said Stacey.
The Breitmann’s 16-year-old daughter carried heavy load of stress as well. At an early age Hallie was diagnosed with Asperger’s, which is on the Autism Spectrum. Homeschooling had helped, but her wanting to be around other young people now was creating social anxiety. She had fallen behind in school and was taking three medications to help with depression and anxiety.
Meanwhile the older Breitmann daughter was clashing with her parents over wanting more and more freedom. She was also on antidepressants. She knew she had deeply disappointed her parents by moving out and walking away from school, her church, and her family. Stacey worried about the relationship this daughter had with an older man. The hostility between father and his firstborn was palpable, sparking her decision to move out, which added to his sense of loss, depression, hopelessness.
A break in the family tension came when Stacey decided to take Hallie for neurofeedback training in a nearby town. “I spent a fortune, but I knew after 10 sessions she was better,” said Stacey.
Hallie continued the training and completed twenty sessions. By the time she was finished, she was off of all medication.
Stacey wanted to learn more about neurofeedback and consulted a physician friend who told her about the neurofeedback system she was checking out for home use. As soon as Stacey learned about the system, she ordered the hardware and software package herself.
“I bought our system when Hallie was almost finished with her sessions. Her improvement had been miraculous. She was back at grade level. I decided it was time for me to give neurofeedback a try, so I began training on myself with the Brain-Trainer system in April of 2018. Within nine sessions I could tell a major difference.
“It was as though all the obsessive thoughts and anxieties that had been swirling around in my brain slowed down, drove into a garage, found a place to park, turned off the engine, came inside, and relaxed in a warm bath while I listened to spa music. It wasn’t that I quit being concerned about the challenges. It was that I was able to come out of overwhelm. With the anxiety and depression gone, I started to think clearly. I could tackle tasks without dreading them. My mood brightened. I felt better about myself. I was not terrified about what would happen when Todd came home, because I knew that if neurofeedback could help Hallie and me, it could also help him, and our oldest daughter,” said Stacey.
By the time Todd was home to stay, the family was in a completely different place emotionally. Their oldest daughter had also started neurofeedback, and was enjoying her visits home for the training. She, too, was tapering off of antidepressants.
“Coming into a happier family, after having been gone for almost nine months, was an incredible relief. I had done a lot of healing on my journey. And the work Stacey had done, with her own counseling and the neurofeedback, helped her to be more open to my coming home, to our being on the same team. Now she doesn’t assume the worst. Together we can process the facts and if things get a little tense, we can take a break instead of hurting each other. The differences in her, in her confidence and problem-solving abilities, are miraculous.
“Seeing Hallie literally blossom into a happy teenager who doesn’t have to take medication for anxiety is an answered prayer. It used to be that we would need to push her out the door. Now she is engaged in what she loves; seeing her interact with people – with so much less fear – is wonderful,” said Todd.
It didn’t hurt that Todd, too, had started neurofeedback. And that he was soon hired for a job helping other veterans with securing healthcare benefits.
The homeschooling mom has become a strong advocate for neurofeedback, explaining that neurofeedback, which has been in use for 50 years, literally helps the brain build new connections at a higher level of functioning.
“This is the brain helping the brain,” she says with conviction.
Having invested hundreds of hours into research and her own training, seeing neurofeedback help transform her family, Stacey now has what she would call “a healthy obsession with the brain and neurofeedback.”
She explains, “There is nothing going into the brain. Neurofeedback simply measures brainwaves while the brain is engaged in processing what is seen and heard on a computer monitor. When brainwaves measured are not fluctuating wildly, or in a ramped-up zone where anxiety is likely, music and visuals on the computer screen during training continue. If the brainwaves become erratic, or too fast or too slow, the music and the visuals stop. In this way, for the brain to receive what it wants – the visuals and the music (which can even be a movie, something from Netflix, or cat videos as the person receiving therapy chooses) – the brain trains itself to function at a more efficient, less erratic level,” she said.
Brain waves are measured by sensors on the scalp, in sessions that are planned with the help of a QEEG (quantitative electroencephalography) exam, the standard for use in measuring brainwave activity and planning a neurofeedback protocol.
Stacey explained that the program she is using is more than traditional neurofeedback, as it also uses another training modality.
“We are also using training to help increase blood flow to the prefrontal cortex of the brain, the planning, decision-making, follow-through area of the brain that is overridden in importance and function when the brain goes into the survival ‘flight-flight-freeze’ mode. Increasing blood flow to the prefrontal cortex seems to be helping with ‘executive function.’ It helps us slow down and express ourselves more clearly and appropriately.”
Stacey has become such an advocate of neurofeedback that she has written a training manual she believes can be used by anyone, and recently gave a talk about her experience with neurofeedback to a group of women in Florida. It was inspirational weekend where she was the featured speaker.
“I want to see as many troubled families and individuals as possible have access to neurofeedback. It has changed our lives by changing our brains. I grew up in a horrific situation, never able to trust being safe. Stress would take me back to that childhood place of feeling terrified. Neurofeedback helped be become more rational, as my brain was trained to function with less stress. Now that I am not in constant panic, I can see the parts of our lives that are not going the way we want them to go, and can look at these challenges with clarity and openness instead of fear and blame, shame, or guilt,” she explained.
From military wife, homeschooling mom, and Sunday school teacher to neurofeedback advocate isn’t a far stretch, Stacey explains, saying, “When our brains are functioning better, we function better. It is that simple. There is so much stress and negativity in the world, it is little wonder that so many people feel anxiety and depression; that so many people also contemplate suicide.
“Neurofeedback is a solution that lasts. It helps people get off of costly medications that also come with unpleasant side effects. Neurofeedback has been around for 50 years. It’s been proven safe and effective. I found that I didn’t have to know anything about neuroscience to do this. The training plan that comes with the equipment we chose tells you exactly what to do. It is like following a recipe. I trained myself and it was miraculous,” said Stacey.
Todd continues the praise for neurofeedback, saying, “I cannot say enough about what neurofeedback has done to help our family. I look forward to continuing my training. I am as excited about this as Stacey is, and am eager to see other military families dealing with depression, anxiety, and thoughts of suicide have access to this miracle, too.”
While Todd and Stacey used to guard their privacy, they now welcome the opportunity to tell others about neurofeedback. In the months since interviews for this story began, Stacey opened a business to help other parents secure neurofeedback equipment. She also coaches people as to how to learn how to follow the recommended protocols to train themselves and their family members.
The system they use is called Brain-Trainer. More information on it can be found at Brain-Trainer.com.
According to Noeani Viloria, Biofeedback Specialists, Board Certified in Neurofeedback, at the Center for Youth Wellness in San Francisco, CA, other systems in use at treatment centers across the U.S. include those by:
Noe is enthusiastic about the results of NFB done with family involvement, saying, “More often than not, the child is the identified patient and the primary participant in treatment. However, we know that a key factor in protecting against or reversing the effects of toxic stress on a child’s developing brain and body is by having a responsive, buffering caregiver. Neurofeedback can help children and teens learn how to better self-regulate by gently nudging the brain out of old habits and teaching it new patterns and ‘tricks’. However, it is also important that these new patterns and tricks are reinforced in the home. We cannot only depend on the newly regulated brain of a child to hold strong if he/she then returns to a dysregulated household or family system. Engaging both child and caregiver in multidisciplinary services will have the most impact. Brain training for the family opens up the possibility for co-regulation, as well as a shared language and understanding of brain function.
Explaining more about the effectiveness of NFB, Noe adds, “Research has predominantly focused on the effectiveness of neurofeedback in the treatment of ADHD, epilepsy, and substance abuse. There is now a growing body of evidence supporting the effectiveness of neurofeedback with anxiety, depression, and PTSD. In my experience, neurofeedback can also be a helpful way to engage the child or teen who is not ready or open to therapy.”